TPK, or just Fading Away – What Really Kills Parties?

When this blog started, I was having a great time writing- blog posts just for my own benefit, re-posting funny things I saw and even making my own homebrew content for DmsGuild– then, life got in the way. Too much time spent on work, side-gigs and too much, well, LIFE. Too much adulting, for sure.

For the last year and a half, I’ve been telling myself I need to get back into it. Not because I think this blog should be the BBAB (Big Bad Awesome Blog) of the D&D world, but just because I enjoy it and it’s good for my soul. In addition, recently all of my long-running D&D games also petered out, so no more games, no more writing about games.


However, I’m now down to one job and one mellow side-gig and I think I get to have a life again. It’s time to start looking for group and also start writing again.

All of this got me thinking; what really kills most games?

It isn’t really TPKs because most players and DMs will just roll up a new set of characters and get the game going again.

What kills games the most? Work? School? New girl/boyfriends (or other significant others), like in Stranger Things Season 3? Break-ups? General social drama among players and DMs? Babies? All the same stuff that kills bands as they’re starting to get good, right?

What has been the biggest game-killer in your games?

What kills parties?

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  1. lordkholland on July 28, 2019 at 1:26 am

    In fairness, I did move, but you’d think I’d be able to find a game less then 2 and a half hours away. (Sadly not)

    • Dave Goff on August 2, 2019 at 12:15 pm

      I hear you. Maybe try Meetup?

      • lordkholland on August 2, 2019 at 5:03 pm

        LoL, I did, I found a game that is two and a half hour away. As well as a writers group two hour away.

        2.5 hours out, then 2.5 back after a 1.5 hour game. Not so interested in spending 5 hours on a bus.

        Not having a car up here is do-able but inconvenient.

        I’ll just have to get a car as soon as I can, or found a closer game.

        Do you know any One up here?

  2. Jon Cohen on April 19, 2020 at 5:56 am

    I can really relate to this post – I’ve been out of D&D for years, mostly due to work taking over my life. In order to get a bit of D&D back in my life, I actually started a solo-play podcast. It did the trick and really has my imagination firing once again. There are characters that I’ve bonded with and actually root for. If joining a group is not an option for you, give my podcast a listen. It’s a decent surrogate for an actual game:

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